Surviving Disappointment -Crochet Puppet

My second crochet puppet was a fail, and twice a success. It was a fail because my 2nd grader was disappointed with it. It was a success because the other kids loved it and wanted it. It was a success again because I changed it so the 2nd grader liked after all.

So I gave my 2nd grader the puppet. I finished it as much as I was going to finish it. I didn’t give him legs, even though my student wanted him to have legs. I have to admit that with the attitude he was displaying towards my efforts, I wasn’t as inspired to comply with his requests (demands). I did add arms, ears and a nose and I thought he came out pretty cute.

crochet puppet max_2

What’s wrong with my eyes?

When I handed him over, the look of disappointment was palpable. And now I was disappointed. So this was a fail. But it was also a success because there were about 10 other kids circling him like sharks hoping they could have it. They smelled the scent of his disappointment and moved in to snatch the puppet up.

Some were begging me to let them have it since he didn’t like it and some were appealing directly to him to give it to them. I saw right away that he just might give it away (no way buddy) so I put a stop to that real quick. I told them all that it would go in the Ultimate Prize Box if he didn’t end up keeping it (either by his choice or mine).

I asked my 2nd grader if he wanted to trade him for something else since it didn’t seem like he liked the puppet. He actually thought about it! Oh, help me survive the fickleness of kids! I told him that he probably should trade it since he obviously didn’t like it. He hesitatingly said  he would keep it, although I think this had more to do with him not wanting anyone else to have it. He walked away but he kept griping about how the puppet didn’t have eyeballs! He was obsessed with eyeballs!

I finally had enough and was about to make an executive decision and take back the puppet, but instead, I asked him if the eyes were the only reason he didn’t like the puppet. He said yes, so I had him hand the puppet over and I sent the kids out to recess. When they came back, the puppet had new eyes.

crochet puppet max_3

Now he has eyeballs!

My 2nd grader had a big smile on his face and he happily scampered off. Now, at least, I had a better feeling that the puppet was going to be liked. Maybe love would come later. 🙂 Still, I think my 2nd grader’s mom was more grateful for the puppet than my student. She loved it.

Any art is an extension of ourselves and it can be hard to put ourselves out there. And when our work is rejected (even by a 2nd grader), it can be tough not to take the rejection personally.

My hubby is an artist. He makes a living from his art. He tells me he doesn’t take it personally when a client asks for changes or just doesn’t like something.  He just makes the changes until the client is happy.

So that’s what I did. I  made the change and the client (student) was happy.

And knowing that the other students loved the puppet as it was saved my ego. One of the reasons I get nervous when someone asks me to make them something is because I know that meeting an expectation can be hard. They have something in their mind that they want and it might not be the same as what I produce. I’d rather just make things and if it’s liked, that’s great, if it’s not, that’s no biggie.

But I don’t let that stop me with the kids. Most of the time, they’re extremely happy and appreciative of what I make for them. I’m grateful for that.


19 thoughts on “Surviving Disappointment -Crochet Puppet

  1. That is so great that both you and your hubby are artists! I love the puppet. Would be such a nice sweater– the blue middle part with the cream colored sleeves. I have a hunch you cook well too. What’s on the dessert menu this weekend?

    Liked by 2 people

    • Thank you! I’m glad you liked the puppet because I was starting to get a complex about it. LoL
      I hate to cook but when I cook, people do like it. I cook with resignation because I have to and since I have to eat, I want it to taste good. However, I have gotten pretty good at a few desserts because I can’t have wheat so I’ve learned how to make yummy things I can eat. My quick go-to sweet tooth satisfier is my chocolate chip, peanut butter cookies made from ground oat flour. I grind it myself and the cookies are delicious. Everyone loves them too so they aren’t just for me. 🙂

      Liked by 1 person

  2. You know I ❤ the puppet, and I think you should be writing up and selling your pattern. I'm so glad it all worked out. I can't help but look at this in a broader sense that makes me a little sad – I was raised to always be thankful for every gift I received. I would never have dreamed of letting the gift giver ever even suspect that I was disappointed. Especially when it was something that was made by hand!! If that was my child we would have been having a serious discussion about how being ungrateful was rude, selfish, and disrespectful. Then I would have taken the puppet away from him and given it to one of the other children. This wasn't a commissioned piece that he paid for. This was you completely out of your goodness and kindness making this kid a gift. If he hasn't learned how to appreciate someone else's generosity, effort and good will by now he probably never will. I would be mortified if I was his mother. These are very basic rules of politeness and respect that you should know by second grade. Birthday parties and Christmas must be a nightmare in that house. I love the puppet and I think that it looked much better before the eyeballs. 😀

    Liked by 2 people

    • Thanks Tami. 😍 I’ve had this little boy since Kinder and he’s a sweet kid but he’s also a handful. I’ve worked hard on him, and believe me, he’s come a long way. Unfortunately, some of his old tendencies still pop up. And this was one of them.
      I’ll have to come up with a solid pattern for a puppet. I made both of them slightly different. And the third one is slightly different too! Lol although the results are the same, all the inner mouths are completely different as I experiment with what works best. You’re inspiring me to come up with a viable pattern!

      Liked by 1 person

      • We need more educators and caregivers like you Yolanda to pick up the slack where parents fail. I’m sure he is a sweet boy that wants to be kind but he obviously isn’t learning how to be respectful at home.
        I hope you do work up a good pattern!! The crochet world needs more unique and fun ways to use our hooks! The patterns out there are lovely, don’t get me wrong, but I feel like crocheters tend to stitch themselves into blanket boxes sometimes. I LOVE your creative spirit!!! 😀

        Liked by 1 person

      • Awe thanks (blushing over here)! Writing patterns isn’t an area I’m strong in. I guess I better make it a strong area so I’m not intimidated by it. 🙂
        Making videos isn’t my strong point either but I’m steadily getting better. That’s an area I really want to get working for me. Writing better patterns can only help me with that endeavor.
        I went on youtube looking for crochet puppets like the one’s I made and couldn’t find any! I was so shocked. Whenever I can’t find something on Youtube, I’m shocked. LOL Got me thinking I should do my own video(s) on puppets. I’m often wondering what focus I should have for my videos because I don’t want to just keep rehashing what is already out there in droves. I’m thinking of putting more effort into finding areas where there are few or no videos on crochet. Puppets (at least the kind I made) are a good starting point.

        Liked by 1 person

      • I’m in the same place creatively – I haven’t written any patterns even though I freestyle all the time. But we’ve read enough patterns!! You can do it Yolanda!!! 😀

        Liked by 1 person

    • Me too! His mom didn’t see the interaction, but if she had, she wouldn’t have known what to do anyway and would have just apologized for him. She’s very sweet and means well but has a hard time managing him. The good thing is that overall, he’s a smart and creative kid. I’ve worked hard on him over the years to teach him to behave and that he can’t manipulate me (although he got me this time :-)).

      Liked by 1 person

Leave a Reply

Fill in your details below or click an icon to log in: Logo

You are commenting using your account. Log Out /  Change )

Facebook photo

You are commenting using your Facebook account. Log Out /  Change )

Connecting to %s